Four and Five of Cups: Two sides of the same coin

This isn’t a typical interpretation of a Tarot spread, but is something I’ve been wanting to address for many moons now but kept putting off because I didn’t quite know how to approach the subject. As soon as I drew these two I KNEW what I was looking at, and that the time had come for me to stop procrastinating.

Psychic Vampires & Narcissists

I’m not a shrink by any stretch of the imagination but I have encountered many variations of these types of individuals. Whether conscious or unconscious of their actions, these are BROKEN beings. They are also Master Manipulators.

Although the woman on the left appears to be victimized by a Vampyre, she is enjoying every single minute of the encounter. Indeed, she herself is what we would call a “Psychic Vampire” or “Energy Vampire”.

“These are the people who seem to be in constant crisis, perpetually drawing others into their orbit to vent frustration, air complaints, and, yes, pull attention and energy to themselves…Being an energy vampire isn’t a static condition, but it could be a part of narcissism – an inflated sense of self and the need to feel better by disparaging others and promoting themselves in front of others.” [source]

These individuals suck the very air out of a room and live for drama. They feed off its energy. Their life is a well-constructed play in which they is the STAR. The typical “Drama Queen/King” comes to mind here, but the PVs’ manner of sucking you dry may be subtle and more difficult to discern. Once you become familiar with them, however, you instantly recognize their M.O.

Example: A person who finds fault with every single acquaintance/family member/friend/lover, but doesn’t understand why people don’t want to be around him/her, then proceeds to criticize them for “treating him/her badly”. The Psychic Vampire knows what they are doing, but this script needs to be played-out over and over again in order for them to feel relevant.

Remember: They are the STAR of their Universe and everyone else (including you) is a bit player.

On the right we have Ms. Pity Party. ♫♪Poor, poor pitiful me.♪♫

These narcissistic individuals are the GOOD GUY (or gal) in their production. Their M.O. is to set themselves up to be used or treated badly – or just lie about being mistreated. Like the PV on the left, this is a card they will play over and over again. Why? Because it works! It works beautifully on anyone who is compassionate, sympathetic, and generous with themselves. Targets of covert narcissists will feel guilty and believe that this person is THE victim. If you get sucked into their world you will be attending to their bottomless “needs” at the expense of your own health and well-being. Goddess help you if you suddenly say “No” to the demands because this one will turn on you in a NY minute.

“Due to your pity of someone who portrays themselves as hard up, and a victim, you are less likely to suspect them of anything negative — deceipt, manipulation, malice etc…They are harder to spot because they do not display the grandiosity of the Overt Narcissist…” [source]

Unlike the PV, this style of narcissist may not be CONSCIOUSLY aware of what they are doing. They are emotionally stunted yet aware enough to know they are lacking in something that YOU have plenty of: confidence and a healthy level of self-esteem.

Like the PV, the Pitiful Pearl will also suck you dry.

Covert Narcissists: Martyrs in Sackcloth–Endless Pity Parties

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The Chariot, Trump of Cancer, and a New Moon (in Cancer)

synchronicity
n. the simultaneous occurrence of events (or things) which appear significantly related
but have no discernible causal connection

[Major Arcana Tarot cards represent the life lessons, karmic influences and the big archetypal themes that are influencing one’s life and soul’s journey to enlightenment.]

I drew The Chariot  this morning.
This card is the Trump of Cancer, ruled by the Moon.
There’s a New Moon tonight in the sign of Cancer.
(The Sun is also in Cancer.)
The closest major fixed star to this New Moon is Alhena.
(Alhena imparts artistic skills, especially with the written or spoken word.)*
In Tarot The Chariot  sits at midsummer.
Midsummer occurred last week.

I don’t believe in coincidences but I DO believe in synchronicities…

A New Moon is a time for new beginnings and fresh starts; and to break out of bad habits, behaviors, and outdated ways of thinking. In the context of my query* here’s the message.

New paths, projects, and a period of enhanced activity. Routines will be altered for the better. Maintaining order amidst chaos and a re-aligning of Will, emotions, thoughts, and the corporeal is in order.

“Pure intention and inspired motivation are key to The Chariot, which represents the feeling of triumph in achieving our ambition and the victory of our Will.”
Phantasmagoria

The awakened spirit is fearless.
– Rebel Moon

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There’s a Whole Lotta Shakin’ Going On…

We moved here in 1993 and have had one fence replacement during that time. Well, we’re getting another one this week! That means moving plants AND hardscape (in this case cinder blocks) around to accommodate both the construction AND the painting – which won’t happen for another two weeks because the wood will need time to cure. That meant having to rearrange things so that my sun-loving plants won’t suffer during that time.

Some background on the cinder blocks. 77 of them, to be precise.

During the time I was a veggie/herb Buyer for Summerwinds Nursery I wanted to encourage apartment-dwellers to try their hands at growing their own produce. At that time, many growers were producing varieties specifically targeted for small-spaces – even zucchini! I took a hands-on approach and began experimenting with peppers, beans, cherry tomatoes, an heirloom eggplant, and that zucchini – as well as a variety of herbs. Only had one problem: I had to raise everything up to fence level in order for them to receive the sun they needed to grow well.

That’s where the cinder blocks came in. I built “pedestals” for the pots to sit on. After two years of growing veggies (with limited success, I admit) I was left with all those cinder blocks.

For the last seven or so years I’ve had most of them up against the fence.

Well, I’ve been wanting to make some changes to the Concrete Jungle. In fact, they’ve been WAAAAY overdue.

This first installment will remain as you see it. Other sun-loving plants will replace the blue bacopa which will go back up on the fence line once I re-install the wrought-iron flower boxes.

Likewise, I’m happy with the “sitting nook” and its little half-wall.

Ramses investigating the area behind the half-wall.

As the day became warmer and I became drenched in sweat from moving around the cinder blocks, we decided to take a much-needed break before I began tackling the right-hand-side of the patio.

I had to play around with the set-up for my herbs with the result being a temporary “wall”. They should receive enough sun to keep them healthy the next few weeks. Fingers crossed.
NOTE: The first photo is a BEFORE shot.

This endeavor has given me TONS of ideas, too. I can’t wait for everything to be back to normal so I can “redecorate” that corner. Stay tuned for updates.

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Concrete Jungle Update: 5.27.2022

We’re a good month away from the Summer Solstice (officially) but I’m already feeling the Summer Love. So is Ramses. He wants to be “outside” all the time!

(As I’m writing this, he has made himself into a little black “loaf” next to my chair. An unusual place for him to park but I’m not complaining.)

We had some real warm weather earlier this week. I still have some gardening to do (potting and re-potting) but it was too hot so I opted to spend some quality time with the plants, Ramses, and a nice glass of white wine. Did I tell you I cleared away a corner of the Concrete Jungle so I could have a proper seating area?

The mornings have been lovely, too, so I’ve taken to having my first sips of coffee out there. I think I want to hang some small pots on the trellis. Maybe ferns. The asparagus fern in the corner serves as a little hideaway “tent” for Ramses. (He thinks he’s hiding from me. LOL)

None of the birds have gotten used to me sitting out there though, as I’m VERY close to both feeding stations. They anxiously observe us from the nearby tree, cussing us out. (At least, it SEEMS like they’re cursing.) I watch the bees making their rounds of the African Blue basils. So does Ramses. I keep a spray bottle of water nearby when he gets too inquisitive because my cat’s an Über Hunter! Today he caught and consumed a Cabbage Butterfly. I consider them pests because of their larvae (cabbage worms) so I didn’t care. However, I had to intervene when he tried to grab Skipper butterfly – which is considered a no-no. I have to keep an eye on him constantly. Hence another reason for the seating nook.

In the afternoons (wine in hand) I chart the sun’s path through the patio and make notes of which plants I might want (or need) to relocate. Container gardening = flexibility. I note which plants need pruning or deadheading. The choices I made in plants last year have proved sound. They are thriving. The ones that flower are flourishing. Small though it may be, there’s abundance here.

Little by little, my Concrete Jungle is becoming a Sacred Sanctuary filled with Magickal intent…

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Fortune smiles on those born under the sign of Aries

‘Kayso I WAS going to do a Post about the upcoming Full (Blood) Moon/Lunar Eclipse – in Scorpio – happening tonight on the West Coast [1] but…when I did a one-card reading this morning I pulled this:

This was one of those moments when I planned on going down one path, but the Universe led me down another. Fortune is the Planetary Trump of Jupiter and Jupiter entered the sign of Aries last Tuesday – where it will remain for one year.

Destiny is what you are supposed to do in life.
Fate is what kicks you in the ass to make you do it.

– Henry Miller

Jupiter is the largest planet in our solar system and is referred to as “the Great Benefic” in astrology. A planet of luck, growth, optimism, expansion, and joy. (I’ve always pictured Jupiter as jolly St. Nick. Santa Claus.)

Jupiter takes 12 years to go around the Sun, so it generally spends about 12 to 13 months in each zodiac sign. Known as the King of the Gods in Roman mythology, Jupiter rules the sign of Sagittarius (freedom-loving individualist). Like Aries and Leo, Sagittarius is a Fire sign.

The Trump Card of Jupiter represents the Universe in a constant state of change – which it is. Here we see three Vampyre creatures clutching a wheel: Panther (the active and creative energy initiating Summer, the Fire of Life, and is a positive force), Serpent (Winter, retrospection and decay, and a negative force), Chimera (made-up of the four elemental animals in The Tarot of Vampyres deck; its role is to give the other two the momentum needed to spin the wheel).

Fortune is symbolized as a Wheel, spinning the destiny of each individual. The card symbolizes fate/destiny, expansion/momentum, change/movement, cycles, and unexpected gifts/opportunities. When this card appears change, movement, or expansion is inevitable. (Remember: Major Arcana cards represent life lessons, karmic influences, and archetypal energies that are influencing you right now. When you draw a Trump card its influence is unavoidable.)

Synchronicity. The relationship between two seemingly unrelated occurrences. My drawing the Fortune card days after Jupiter entered Aries is no coincidence, Dear Readers. The card is supporting what the heavens are saying: It’s the beginning of a era filled with happy beginnings, blessings, and new opportunities.

Indeed. I will go further and state that ALL Aries will be the luckiest sign of the zodiac for the next 12 months! So let’s not squander our good fortune.

But for every sign of the zodiac, with Jupiter in Aries we can attract the best fortune when we take the lead, initiate, inspire others, and demonstrate enthusiasm and courage. Faith in ourselves can bring about positive circumstances or good luck during this transit. Remember:

Fortune favors the brave.

This Full Moon/Lunar Eclipse is going to be a Blood Moon, where the moon will glow a scarlet color during the eclipse. On top of that it’s a Supermoon: A new or full moon at its closest to Earth for the month. There’s a lot going on here including a hard aspect to the “most dangerous star in heaven”: Algol.

I’ve already covered Algol’s power on the Full Moon/Partial Eclipse that occurred last November: Lilith’s Mourning Moon. Same influence holds true tonight.

The Sun in Taurus encourages happiness with the simple, tangible things in life, while the Scorpio Moon draws our attention to complexities, intangibles, and mysteries. (Scorpio rules the Underworld and symbolizes death, rebirth, and transformation.) Ideally, a balance should be found between the two energies, and this is what the Full Moon invites us to do.

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